It is with the utmost caring that I tell you this. Please understand I am cruel because I care....
You are going through a rather stressful and difficult time right now. This is the time to employ all those coping strategies you've paid your counselor thousands of dollars for. Remember all those deep breathing and meditation exercises you scoffed at? What about the self-care she's always lecturing you about? I seem to remember a lot of "be good to yourself" and "treat yourself with extra care and kindness."
I question the manner in which you believe you are doing this. I know you wholeheartedly believe in shopping therapy, and I will admit at times it does have benefits. I do not think now is one of those times though. Now is the time to put the money you've already spent to good use.
Trying on jeans that are three sizes too small is not treating yourself with kindness. I will agree the jeans were pretty fantastic. The rhinestones and color were pretty cool, and you can't beat $12 for a brand new pair. I understand you used to shop in this section. You frequently remind me that you were a size 3 many years ago...ahem, 16 years ago to be exact, but who's counting? No amount of squatting down to stretch the jeans will make them fit....they simply will not stretch enough to fit over your hips. If they look too small on the hanger, they ARE too small.
This seems like an appropriate time to mention that what you call "hope" may in fact be denial. It's a fine line and can be confusing, I know.
So please, take your counselor's advice, be good to yourself, and if you absolutely must employ shopping therapy then browse in your real size.
By the way, putting unreasonable demands (ie attempting to do 32 hours of work during a 24 hour day) is also unhelpful. Just a thought.
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